Especially for You
Sue Beeney, RN
New Hope for New Hope
Susan Beeney, RN
Founder-Director of New Hope Grief Support Community
"Praise be to the God and
Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all
comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in
any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God. For just
as the sufferings of Christ flow over into our lives, so also through Christ,
our comfort overflows. If we are distressed, it is for your comfort and
salvation; if we are comforted it is for your comfort, which produces in you
patient endurance of the same sufferings we suffer. And our hope for you
is firm because we know that just as you share in our sufferings, so also you
share in our comfort." (2 Corinthians 1:4-7)
Each day that we awake, we need hope.
Medical science tells us that we can live approximately 40 days without food,
five days, maybe, without water, but one cannot live more than a minute without
hope. Hope is what gets us out of bed each morning, especially on Mondays.
Hope is what motivates us throughout the day to move to the next event or even
just the next moment. For the grieving person, hope is important.
For it is hope that keeps them going, in spite of their overwhelming grief from
the death of someone they love.
This is especially seen in the lives of
grieving parents. It is a true testimony of God’s powerful grace, which
carries us through this seemingly impossible situation. In 2nd
Corinthians 12:9, we find, "My grace is sufficient for
you, for my power is made perfect in weakness."
Listening to the endless stories of how He
carried the grieving parent through those blurred days surrounding the news of
the death of their child, and into the painful days, weeks, and months leading
to years, beyond the horrible news of the death of the child (of any age) is
perfect proof that God is all sufficient for anything and any situation.
For the person without God in their life, there
is no carrying, there is no sufficient grace, no power of God made perfect, no
hope. There is only suffering that is carried alone.
Christ came to make God possible for everyone.
To offer help in any storm of life. In the Book of Romans, in the New Testament,
it is promised, "That if you confess with your mouth
‘Jesus is Lord’ and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you
will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are
justified, and it is with your mouth that you confess and are saved"
(Romans 10:9-10). Christ the Anchor is attached to our life with the
eternal lifeline of hope, and He forever helps us through any storm that our
ship of life enters.
For the grieving person, this is the secure
promise that they will make it, and eventually get to the "new normal" after the
grief work is done.
There are stages, or phases, or reactions to
the grief that occurs after the death of a loved one. And just as there
are stages, or phases, or reactions, there are certain tasks of mourning that
one must go through when living on through those first approximately one
to two years after the death. Not doing that grief work, or remaining in
denial, will result in possible physical, and/or mental harm, rendering one
useless in functioning in the day-to-day activities of living, which must be
done for survival and life.
This is where having Jesus Christ as your
Savior, by simple belief in Him, as Savior and Lord of one’s life, makes all the
difference for survival. For Jesus brings hope beyond the grave, and
death, that keeps one going against all odds. For He brings eternal life
to have that hope beyond death, that we will live with him someday, as well as
be reunited with our loved ones who had that same belief in Jesus Christ before
their death (see John 3:15). The decision is an individual one, not made
corporately, nor inherited as with other things received through our family.
We must each one day stand alone before God to find our name is written in His
Lamb’s Book of Life, for acceptance into heaven (Revelation 21:27, His last Word
to us in the Bible). If you know Jesus as your Lord and Savior –
your name is written there.
This is new hope for those who come to believe.
For those who do, it is constant encouragement and strength in any situation,
and any pain of life. This is what brings joy against all odds.
Philippians 4:6-7 states, "Don’t worry about anything;
instead, pray about everything, tell God your needs and don’t forget to thank
Him for His answers. If you do this, you will experience God’s peace,
which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand. His peace
will keep your thoughts and your hearts quiet and at rest as you trust in Christ
Jesus." This brings new hope everyday, anywhere, in any
circumstance. This is new hope indeed.
Father, we receive Jesus Christ, the Son, into
our hearts, into our grief, into the sorrows of this world. We cannot do
any of this alone, and we welcome You, Lord, into our grief, our pain, our loss.
Comfort us Lord, and bring us through. We receive you now. Please
grant us Your Holy Spirit, that we may never be alone again. Thank
You, Father, for sending us Your Son. In Jesus Name. Amen.
Susan Beeney, RN, created the New Hope Grief Support Community, fourteen years
ago, after experiencing considerable exposure to grief, while serving as a
registered nurse in the cancer unit of a large hospital.
God began prodding Susan to study the word
"grief" and all aspects of it. After much study (and learning from
Him), she authored the New Hope Grief Support Handbook, in 1987.
For there she developed "New Hope Grief Support Groups," for the
community. She has led grief support groups ever since that time.
Hundreds of people have been reached through the New Hope program. Susan is
also a Christian seminar Bible teacher, and she is available for providing New
Hope Grief Support Community seminars on grief, and in training seminars for
group facilitators in grief group ministries.
Susan Beeney may be reached at:
New Hope Grief Support Community
PO Box 8057,
Friday Study Ministries